10 Ways to Flirt With Your Husband

The other night, I caught a Tweet in my stream from Theresa at Rock On Mommies, asking if we still flirtwith our husbands.  That was the topic on her live webshow, Girl Chat.  I responded with an enthusiastic, “You bet!” I couldn’t join the show that night, because of scheduling conflicts, so I thought I’d write a post with my ideas.

How to Flirt With Your Husband

I’ve been married almost 14 years, and I can honestly say I am more in love with my husband today than on that snowy day in 1996 when we shared our first kiss… and tied the knot. Our marriage has not been without the rough spots, but I am blessed to have a committed, forgiving, loving husband who loves the Lord.

I hadn’t really thought too hard about it before, but Judd and I DO flirt!  Not all the time, sometimes the monotony of life takes over.  And sometimes the “flirting” takes on a different form when you’re married, as well.  If you’re looking for ways to spice things up in everyday life, here are a couple ideas.

1. Praise your husband in front of the kids.

Men crave respect from their wives more than anything.  So find something he does well, and tell… the kids!  Right in front of him! ” Kids, do you know what a great daddy you have? He really knows how to fix things doesn’t he?”  Trust me, you’ll see a twinkle in his eye! And your kids will be more secure knowing their parents love each other.

2. Praise him on Facebook.

Same principle applies here, but just remember he needs to look good to his peers.  “Thanks to my husband for finishing up my knitting project.”  may not be something he wants to go public with.  Just sayin’.

3. Text him.

My husband and I text almost every day.  Lots of times I have something I want to share with him, but I can’t really call him while he’s playing trumpets with 6th graders. (nor would I want to, honestly)  But if I text him, he can take it when he has a break. Sometimes I text a joke/funny story, ask him a question about his day, or just say I love him. Don’t mess with the racy photos… too dangerous that they’ll accidentally be seen or forwarded.

4.  Make his favorite dinner.

Remember when you were dating, and realized the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? Yeah… that never expires.

5. Wear his favorite clothes.

No… not HIS clothes.  You know what I mean! You know those jeans he always compliments you on?  The top he suggests you wear on dates? Wear that outfit!

6. Learn his “Love Language” and speak his native tongue.

Is his Love Language touch? Give his back a rub real quick while passing him in the kitchen.  Quality time? Put the computer away for the night.  Acts of service? Wash his car! (and start a water fight while you’re at it)

7. Share an inside joke.

My husband is really funny, and we laugh a lot.  Every now and then, I take myself a little too seriously, and he reminds me to chill out with his humor.  He likes to find funny videos on YouTube, and share them with me, and those often

become the subjects of inside jokes between us.  If you ever hear us ask each other, “Can I ha yo number?” it’s because of this. ( Warning, they use the D-word and a few times and the A-word twice).  We actually re-enacted it on the way to the movies, and had so much fun on our date!

8. Write messages with dry-erase marker on the bathroom mirror. This idea came from my dear friend Jaime! Especially if your husband goes to sleep before you and gets up before, you too.  Ahem… I’m not talking about

me…

9. Steal a moment in the pantry or closet! Just a little hug and smooch!  We started this occasionally a few year

s ago.  We run into the pantry for seriously about 1 minute, but the kids always shout, “Mommy and Daddy are in the Kissin’ Room!” My eldest and youngest say, “Eeeew,” and the middle child tries to peek.  It’s good for the kids to see that we love each other, and even a stolen minute can tell him that he is a priority in my life.

10.  _______________________________? What do you do to flirt with your husband?  Let us know in a comment!

About Sarah Pinnix

I'm a mom, blogger, vlogger, libertarian. I love Jesus, and my husband, too. Social Media Strategist for a Non-Profit (All statements here are solely my own)

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  1. Walk around naked :-) (err, when the child isn’t around of course)

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    Haha! I love it!!

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  2. Melissa
    Twitter: multitaskingme
    says:

    I love the tip about letting your kids see you display affection- I think that is so important. I also leave notes for the hubby in his lunch so he knows I am thinking of him…speaking of which,I haven’t done that in awhile- thanks for the reminder!

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    Oh, that’s a good one. I have never been good at this, but I need to do it more for him and the kids.

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  3. Such a cute post! I’ll have to remember the dry erase board one. We do most of these but not nearly as often as we should. Thanks for the reminder– the little things do go a long way!

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  4. I just came back from flirting with my Farmer hubby. I had to take him out to the tractor… there’s a country song in there someplace! :p

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    So true about the country song! That’s so cute!

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  5. Kait
    Twitter: kaitevans
    says:

    We do bum grabs, and lots of teasing. Use to walk around in lacy things (me, not him), but since my fam is hear visiting that might be a little awkward. haha.

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    Oh, I love how you clarified, “Me, not him.” :D

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  6. Donna S
    Twitter: donnashenk
    says:

    What a great post. I used to leave love notes on my hubby’s car or I’ve graffiti-ed his car windows w/ window pens – lots of hearts and cheesy “I love you’s” I’m always surprised how long he keeps it looking like that!

    I’ve surprised him at work with lunch too.

    Love all these cute ideas!

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  7. These things are flirting!? I’m not nearly as bad a wife as I thought I was. Good to know… :-)

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  8. After 31 years of marriage, my husband I still flirt! About 8 years ago we went on a marriage retreat in the Smokey Mountains of TN that our church sponsored. We took a quiz about our partner (It was called his needs, her needs) My husband totally got me! Me? Not so much! LOL I took that as my que that I should be learning more about what makes him tick. So, your suggestion about learning his love language is excellent!
    I’ll call or text him throughout the day. He says he loves and needs to hear my voice especially when it’s a tough day. To hear his voice still thrills me too. Sometimes, when I’m teaching a ladies class at church, he’ll show up. I can’t even begin to tell you the thrill that goes through me to look up and see him across the room. and when he shows up just for me??? Well, that just lights me up! I make “treats” for him and take them to him at work (He works about 30 minutes from home). I’ll wear HIS fave outfit, thought it might not be mine. We have a special “sign” that when one or the other uses that (reserved only for each other) it says it all. I suggest couples develope their own special/secret sign! It’s fun. There are so many other little ways, ways that don’t take any effort on our parts, but are received like a huge demonstration to them!

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    Kait
    Twitter: kaitevans
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    Haha, my husband and I have a tune we whistle, that only we know. Usually means, Take me to bed or lose me forever. (To quote Top Gun) We do that, or a funny raise of the eyebrow.

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  9. Ashley
    Twitter: ashleykblogs
    says:

    Love this post!!! Flirting is a must to keep the firing going in your marriage!!!

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  10. Yes! 10x yes! Flirting is so important.

    Your facebook one reminds me of one of my huge pet peeves. My brother and sister-in-law do this all the time. “To my wonderful husband, you are the air that I breath. Thank you for loving me. Yours always, Your so-very-in-love Wife.”

    Puke…

    Yes, talk them up to everyone but keep your private love letters personal.

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  11. Susan Edwards says:

    I guess it depends on your

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  12. Kristy
    Twitter: quitthewick
    says:

    My favorite is dancing in the kitchen. I usually listen to music while making dinner and I love it when my husband comes in and slow dances with me. Although I guess that is him flirting with me…

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    Oh, that’s a good one! We do that sometimes too!

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  13. Kathleen Marler
    Twitter: WMnKM
    says:

    I call my husband at lunchtime and flirt/tease about what will happen when he comes home! Sometimes he even shows up at home early!

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  14. Annie
    Twitter: MamaDweeb
    says:

    Now that I am 28 weeks pregnant I CAN wear his favorite shirts, LOL!!

    Seriously though, this is a wonderful list and an encouraging reminder. My husband doesn’t allow texts on his phone but he does answer his phone throughout the day and we laugh back and forth and share jokes throughout the day.

    You are so right though – having a loving husband that loves GOD really helps in so many ways!

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  15. Great post! We really shouldn’t allow ourselves to ever fall out of love…but sometimes we just get so bogged down in the day to day stuff that we forget. Too comfortable or something. My husband and I actually write emails to each other all day…letting each other know what is going on and all that.

    And we talk to each other in movies all the time…which some people around us just never get at all lol

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  16. Hey! You changed your blog clothes! (I like it.) =)

    This is a great list, I sure could stand to remember a few of these a bit more often! Maybe a lot more often!

    I like to flirt with my hubby through I.M. It’s sad, in a way, but his home office is separate from the house so when he’s working out there, I can chat with him here and there through yahoo messenger without interrupting his work too much. I can throw in a few flirts and hints here and there, too. It works for us. ;)

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  17. MamaHall
    Twitter: mamahall
    says:

    sweet! i like keeping the “youthfulness” alive in our relationship too. sometimes just giving a kiss on the cheek in passing, or grabbing his hand when we’re out in public and he least expects it. i also try to laugh at all his jokes even when they get old :)

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    You know, that’s one thing my husband always says, “I love that you laugh at my jokes.”

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  18. Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
    says:

    I am loving all these comments!! You gals are great flirts!

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  19. Awww! This is a great post! Hubby flirts with me, I’ll oblige but he’s the one that usually initiates it. We’re actually complete opposites but, I think that’s why we work so well together! I met hubby when I was fifteen in the 11th grade in High School. A year later I was a teen mom handling graduating from high school, becoming a new parent while trying to continuing my education. It’s been almost seventeen years later, married with four children and we can still laugh at how we met and our high school love affair! I know about rough patches all too well because as a teenager you don’t know what you’re doing! BUT, against all odds and people who thought we’d fail… We are here and happy and keeping the romance alive plays a HUGE part! Thanks for this post! I guess I’ll text him now and tell him how much I love him! I may have to start initiating flirting, so it’s not all on him. *smiles*

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    Sarah
    Twitter: reallifesarah
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    What an incredible story! Wow, I almost cried reading your comment!!!

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  20. Sue Robinson
    Twitter: MotherhoodnMe
    says:

    I steal a little look from a across the room and mouth, “I love you.” It always makes him smile and when he does the same to me I always melt. It is the best because you can catch each other from anywhere in the room, in any place and it is a silent reminder of the bond we share. Loved this post!

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  21. I love this, we do a lot of this already though instead of the dry erase writter we use washable or bath crayons inside the shower.

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  22. We do alot of these things already, but it is always good to have the reminder!

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  23. I love this, especially the one about writing notes on the mirror. My husband just did that for me recently! I actually blogged about it here: I have the sweetest husband in the world!
    It was SO sweet, and it was just a little thing. :-) Thanks for the great ideas!

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  24. (I found this post on the “We are THAT family” blog linkup.)

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  25. i really liked it!!!!!!!!!!!so cute…and romantic……even i like to do alot of stuffs…give him suprise..bath..:)..or massage…..n sending him messages..to say i love you!!!!!

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  26. I love these ideas, my husband and I have only been married six months and the other night he told me he wanted me to flirt with him more. I was dumbfounded, I send him flurry texts all the time. But then he told me I don’t ever flirt f2f. I hadn’t even realized, don’t know when it stopped but these ideas are sure to help! Thank you!!

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  27. That’s really inspiring! Thanks a lot, after a few years of marriage, my husband it’s more like my best friend, and that’s great, but HE ISN’T; so thanks again<3 Kisses from Argentina:)

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  28. IrishDad says:

    It’s clear these tactics were written by a female. This is NOT how to flirt with your husband. Messages on the mirror? His favorite dinner? Really??? This is the flirting my wife enjoys. Men, as you know are wired differently. If you REALLY want to flirt with him make it sexual. Wear a cute sundress with no panties and give him a public flash. Don’t smack his a$$, grave his package. If you leave him notes, make them dirty. Play out his fantasy… And if you don’t know what that is, ask him. Have an adult conversation about his sexual fantasies, no matter how taboo will Turk him into your beckon call boy.

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