“Am I Doing Something Wrong?”

Tonight, a friend of mine posted a question on Facebook.  One of those exasperated calls for help, where you just want to know that you’re not the only one having a hard time with this “Mom” thing.

She ended with the statement, “Maybe I’m doing something wrong.

I know that this friend does her best as a mom.  She loves the Lord, and provides a great home for her kids, but struggles like the rest of us.  It broke my heart that she was so discouraged.  My answer was this:

Actually, we all do *something* wrong as moms. That’s where we need the Lord. We will make mistakes, and it will be hard, but the hope comes in the Grace of Jesus. That our children sometimes learn more from our motherly mistakes than our successes.

Praying for peace for you, and… no, you’re not the only one who feels that way. God chose YOU for your children, so even though you’re not perfect, you are just what they need.

What do you think?  What would you tell a mom who thinks she’s doing it wrong?

About Sarah Pinnix

I'm a mom, blogger, vlogger, libertarian. I love Jesus, and my husband, too. Social Media Strategist for a Non-Profit (All statements here are solely my own)


  1. Muthering Heights
    Twitter: MutheringHeight

    I would tell her to pray, pray, and PRAY some more!!!

    Parenting is hard work. I actually wrote a post, meant to encourage moms, about the parenting “learning curve” yesterday…maybe she would like to read it?


  2. Lisa
    Twitter: mommyality

    It seems like no matter how well we parent, that when we get to a certain point, we feel we are doing something “wrong”. Maybe you need a little extra sleep, or just some time to yourself for prayer, meditation, soul balancing. But, it’s essential as a parent to take that time for yourself.

    Because sometimes, we just need to reconnect with our maker and our selves.


  3. I think your answer was just perfect 🙂


  4. Jaime
    Twitter: cjoy2day

    Doing it wrong by who’s standard is what I’d ask? We often feel compelled to live up to the wrong standard. I think we can take comfort that we serve a Lord who can fix what we break. He can help shape and mold my kids when I fail them as parents. He can protect them when I can’t. He’s not only my father but the father to my children too. We also know that Satin is the author of confusion and if it all starts feeling a little jumbled up, tell that fell to take a hike! Pray for reassurance that you are a good mom and rest in the Lord.


  5. I feel that way about once a week. I just have to step back and take a look at things. If often helps me to remember something that my son did that I taught him, like manners. Sometimes, as I’m wondering what I’m doing, he will show me right then and there how good of a kid he is and that I must be doing something right.
    Your answer was great, by the way.


  6. carrie anne
    Twitter: cbadov

    Wow. I can’t believe I read this, today of all days. I was just thinking to myself how I must be the only mom who gets frustrated by her kids. The online community is great but sometimes reading all the posts and tweets on how great someone’s kids are or how a mom is balancing working a day job, an online presence, kids and a personal life, it can seem overwhelming to those (i.e., me) who seem to struggle. Every night I ask God to grant me patience, to be a better example for my kids to follow. Some days I feel that’s the only thing that keeps me going and gives me the lift the next day to try all over again.

    As for advising someone else? I don’t know if I could. I guess I would be a sign that she’s not alone. Thanks for this.


  7. As a mom I am really hard on myself, but I’m hard on myself if every area of my life. Sometimes it’s the standards we set for ourselves that are our downfall. I guess if as a mom you’re doing everything you know to do in love and taking into consideration you’re only human then you should give yourself a break. If I were talking to my friend who thought or said that I’d like to assure her that I totally understand and maybe give her examples of similar situations or responses I’ve had. Sometimes just being there for someone is enough to encourage them and get them back on track, so to speak.


  8. Tonoogle
    Twitter: Tonoogle

    OMG! Sarah, I felt this same way and it’s only been 12 days today since I had my lil’ man. I never thought about your answer to your friends question but it’s true in a way. Hopefully, our kids can learn by our mistakes and not always follow in our footsteps. Although, my situation is a bit different I am sure I will run into the same situation soon enough.

    Miss you all



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