Are You Afraid to Disagree?

*Special Assignment at the end of this post!*

In the world of political correctness, I am afraid we are becoming a nation of yes-men (and women). Especially in the conservative and Christian segments of America.

  • We are told that all religions are equal and valid. Yet Christians better not display their religion in public for fear of offending someone.
  • We are sold the “pro-choice” position, but when someone speaks out for the choice of life, they are being hateful.
  • If we want to secure our borders and keep our country safe, we are racist.
  • We are told that political dissent is patriotic, and must listen to our leaders being called Naz*is, fasci*sts and liars. But when we speak out against the liberal political agenda, we are engaging in the politics of hate.

A woman in one local mom’s group to which I belong stated that she didn’t believe we should be disagreeing with each other at all. We should not bring up subjects with which another person had a different view. And if they do have a differing opinion, we should stop talking about it.

I am not saying we should purposely antagonize someone’s views, or constantly bring up divisive subjects. But when did American women get so afraid of disagreement? Should we be afraid of sharing our true thoughts , even if they are different? Can’t we still be friends, even if you don’t see the world through the same lens as I? Even though you’re atheist or agnostic, and I’m Christian, can we still value each other?

OK, here’s the fun part.

I am the poster-girl for Fear of Rejection! I’m about to have a panic attack just thinking about what I’m about to write. I get so much encouragement from the beautiful supportive comments of others here! However, I decided to do something today to face my fear! And maybe help you get over your fear of being real, even when you’re different.

Here’s your assignment:
If you agree with this post, don’t say “Oh, I totally agree we need to disagree more!” (…Am I really about to do this?)

  • Find something somewhere on my blog with which you disagree. Tell me about it! (respectfully, please!) Don’t just attack my position, but share your heart on the issue, and feel free from the constant pressure to conform.

(I reserve the right to delete any comment with which I disagree – just kidding!)

You might want to start with something like “I totally disagree that you are air-headed, and how could you say such a thing!” OK, so go find something…can you tell I’m stalling?

…shaking in my boots…

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About Sarah Pinnix

I'm a mom, blogger, vlogger, libertarian. I love Jesus, and my husband, too. Social Media Strategist for a Non-Profit (All statements here are solely my own)

Comments

  1. melody is slurping life says:

    Ok, you give me this “oh boy let me at her” assignment when I am swamped! I reserve the right to get back here later and dig until I can argue…uh, I mean…disagree nicely with you. 🙂

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  2. I don’t believe all religions are equal and valid. I’m not Catholic, but I do applaud the Pope for his integrity to stand up and say Catholicism is the only true church. If you can’t say what you are doing is true, how can you expect followers or have integrity in a religion that contradicts every other religion? I do believe there is one truth, and that everyone has their choice of what to believe. They are not mutually exclusive things. Morality is not subjective. There is a lot of good being done & taught in a lot of churches. That is not always the same thing as truth.

    My husband teaches a Psychology of Human relations class at the college every fall. One assignment his students are to write an opinion paper called “understanding yourself” that requires citing no sources, about what they believe on 2 dichotomous topics. Their choices are sexuality vs family, religion vs. abortion, alcohol & drugs, etc.

    It is amazing how difficult it is for people to state their opinion. People will minimize what they believe in favor of what is politically correct nearly every time, even though the assignment is not graded on the belief, but on the person’s ability to express what they really believe on controversial issues. They say things like “I could never kill a baby, but if someone else wants an abortion, I’m not going to tell them what to do.” Well, they obviously consider it a baby…is it wrong or not? It is so hard for people to say what they think, because of our cultures obsession with not hurting the feelings of extremists.

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  3. Lynnae @ From Under the Clutter says:

    This is going to be a tough assignment! I don’t have a problem with disagreement, but I almost always completely agree with what you post. Finding something that I don’t agree with will be difficult!

    I’ll be back!

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  4. Lynnae @ From Under the Clutter says:

    Ok, I found it, but I think I already posted that I disagreed. The Grocery Game just doesn’t work for me. I can never find the things that I normally buy, and since our store doesn’t double coupons, the deals aren’t that great.

    Man, I had to go to the second page of your blog before I found anything. lol

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  5. SingForHim @ Real Life says:

    Jen – I totally agree! HA! I broke my own rules.

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  6. I’ll be back for this one ;o)!

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  7. What can I say, I’m a rebel, I can’t do your assignment. I just wanted to stand up and say “Go Sarah, GO! I Totally Agree w/ you, but of course you know that already. I just want to say we are woman w/ feelings and brains. We can be respectful of other people but we CAN and SHOULD stand for what we believe in. No matter what the “social” issues are. I can’t wait to see what everyone writes. Isn’t it funny people write to say they’ll be back ;o) May God bless your day today.

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  8. Okay Sarah, not to ruin your assignment, but I can’t seem to find anything I disagree wtih you about. Maybe I am over looking something. It seems we have a lot of the same veiw points.
    But, if I disagree with any of your future posts, I will be sure to let you know about it. ;o)

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  9. SingForHim @ Real Life says:

    Wusses!! 😉 (just kidding? do you disagree that you are wusses?)

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  10. Lynnae @ From Under the Clutter says:

    Now that I feel bad about disagreeing with you, I gave you an award at my site to make up. 🙂

    Just kidding. Well, about the reason for the award. I really did give you an award. 🙂

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  11. Sandy@ Jesus and Dark Chocolate says:

    You are too cool, what a fun idea! I will have to search your archives…….as someone once said…..”I’ll be back!”

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  12. MorningSong says:

    I do find myself silent when a controversial conversation lifts its ugly head. I used to be about speaking up!! I have a right to my opinion too!! And now, I find myself silent. I guess I may be conforming but I do feel PASSIONATELY that you are right – the Christian bashing is ridiculous and usually followed with ‘Christians are such haters’ when all we have done is disagree.

    Lately I have been saturated with sermons and studies on sharing the love of Christ. Most people who argue are interested in, well, arguing! They are not interested in hearing anything. It has changed my perspective. I now listen and either remain silent, or if they seem interested and have a real question – I answer it. Otherwise, I find it more valuable to live it rather than fight for it. I am sure there should be a happy medium but I have found that if we show we are different, that screams WAY louder than any sermon I can preach at one who opposes me.

    In our Beth Moore study today, she mentioned that world wants to see our theology line up with our reality. The world WANTS to see a difference in us. When our theology lines up with our reality – then we are walking in a power the opposition cannot help but acknowledge. The problem is – we are so busy FIGHTING for our side, we are not showing them anything other than what the expect. We are closed off to their views, as they are to ours. WE are never going to save a soul, only Christ can do that. If we yield to Him and begin to let Him change us – He can SHINE IN US!! We will then be vessels and NOT another mouth piece walking into another argument with a fruitless end. Christ didn’t argue. HE spoke the truth and people hated it. He didn’t argue, He rebuked and was isolated. We often get distracted, like the enemy wanted, in yet another fight and bring forth NO change FOR the kingdom. So, may be I disagree with you. 🙂

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  13. SingForHim @ Real Life says:

    Yay! Morning Song!!! Woo!

    You are right, though, we have to be wise and listen to the Spirit above all else. I’m certainly not for arguing just for the sake of arguing.

    “we are so busy FIGHTING for our side, we are not showing them anything other than what they expect.”

    This is a profound statement. Hmmm…

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  14. MorningSong says:

    So you DON’T hate me for disagreeing with you! haha

    You are right – the first step is being led by the Holy Spirit. We cannot do anything, successfully, without being directed along the way.

    Have a great day!!! (I may steal your little “security freak” line in your leave your comment section. I too am a security freak!)

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  15. OK, I totally disagree that I’m a wussy ;o)

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  16. SingForHim @ Real Life says:

    Boy, do I love you guys!

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