Dear American Idol: A Mom Takes a Stand

I am not usually the “outraged, up-in-arms” mom who regularly emails companies that violate some social standard. But I feel so strongly about the recent horrific statements by Jaime Foxx, that I had to speak out! If another prominent adult male were to say those things about a sixteen-year-old girl, he would be fired, tarred, feathered, and run out of town. Do you know what I’m getting at?

Yes, he gave a token apology, but in my opinion as a mom of young girls, that is not enough. It’s time we spoke up that our girls are not sex symbols to be verbally assaulted in the name of comedy! They are Daughters of the King who deserve the utmost respect and encouragement for staying true to their ideals!

I am so shocked that the media is so silent about this. In my opinion, this is not a benign offhand statement, but a picture of what this man and our society as a whole feels about young girls, and what it collectively thinks is “funny.”

Where are the REAL feminists who will stand up against true denigration? After you read my letter to FOX (Which will probably get deleted right away) please share your thoughts on this. I am really curious to know whether I am out here on a limb!

If you haven’t heard Jaime Foxx’s tasteless tirade, click here, but I will warn you not to listen to this in the presence of your children. It is really awful.

I just want to communicate that I felt physically SICK to my stomach when I saw Jaime Foxx on your show. What he spewed on his supposed “comedy” show about Miley Cyrus was just about the most horrible thing I have ever heard. Racial slurs, sexual jokes toward a minor, and wishing she would use drugs? COME ON! Having him on your show was like hiring Don Imus to host the NAACP Awards right after he trashed those basketball players- only WORSE! Is that why you kept him a “secret” until after the show started? Does five minutes of viewing time count toward your ratings?

As a mom of young girls, I am very upset by Jaime Foxx’s statements, the media’s refusal to hold him accountable, and American Idol’s poor judgement in selecting show guests this season. I was puzzled when you featured an “artist” rapping about strippers and prostitutes, the bizarre and unentertaining performance by Lady Gaga, and now a man who racially and sexually disparaged a young girl – a talented one at that!

I have already stopped letting my children watch your show and I will probably soon be turning the channel as well. Please think about the statements you make from your powerful stage, and take into account all the families who are watching your show

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  1. oh amanda says:

    I didn’t see Jaime Foxx or AI but WOW. I’m with you–let’s protect our girls! Good job, Sarah!



  2. Anonymous says:

    Good job… the silent majority is getting wrestless


  3. willblogforshoes says:

    Wow! I had no idea. I’m pretty turned off by Jamie Foxx’s current “hit” so I was bummed when he was the “mentor” tonight. And I’ve been pretty disappointed with the guest list of AI this season. (I mean, letting Flo-rida–or however you spell it– sing that nasty song was just gross).

    Good for you for speaking up. Shame on Fox if they choose not to listen!


  4. Musings of a Housewife says:

    You are absolutely right. I said the same thing but not nearly as thoroughly last night on my recap post.

    There are several issues going on here. The double standard (your point about Imus is valid) and also American Idol’s obvious misjudgment in asking Foxx to be a guest judge – “the perfect mentor” they called him. Um. NO.


  5. Beth/Mom2TwoVikings says:

    Good grief! We don’t follow Jamie Fox, AI, or Hannah Montana/Miley Cyrus but for pete’s sake! What are people (and FOX) thinking?


  6. Sapphire says:

    I don’t watch AI and I didn’t know about Foxx’s tirade until I saw your tweets last night and your post this morning. I couldn’t listen to the entire clip b/c my kids are awake, but what I heard was extremely crass and tasteless. I know that comics like to use shockingly bad language, but even with that being said, I agree that it is inappropriate to direct such disgusting comments towards a teenager.
    I will say that from what I heard, it sounded like there were 3-4 people on the clip and I couldn’t tell who said what.
    I do think your analogy is stretching it a bit, though. Likening American Idol to the NAACP awards….more like having Don Imus guest on DWTS or something equally mainstream.


  7. Cindy @ Fenced in Family says:

    I didn’t hear what he said, but you’re right that those type comments are completely inappropriate and WRONG. Another big reason why my family got rid of the tv.


  8. Katie @ goodLife {eats} says:

    We haven’t been tuning in this season beause we’ve been too busy to watch, but from the sound of it AI is no longer a family friendly show. And that’s a big disappointment because it was something we all watched together and enjoyed.


  9. Lindylou says:

    Excellent post on your frustration, and rightly so, regarding the terrible choice of guests on American Idol…It should be called American Idiots. We don’t need to watch and help it degrade our culture. We used to watch as a family but no more.


  10. I hadn’t heard that clip before. It is horrible! You’re right that he shouldn’t have been on Idol after something like that. Of course I didn’t think he really should have been considered a “music mentor” anyway. What happened to using real artists?

    I could not believe they had Flo Rida on singing his song that is very obviously about a physical act that is not family friendly.

    Good for you on writing such a well spoken letter.

    I do have to disagree with you on one point though. I don’t think Mylie Cyrus is talented. I like her new song but wish someone else sang it. Her voice is horrible in my opinion. I don’t even like to hear her talk, let along sing. But then, we all have our own opinions. that is why there are so many different types of singers and music in the world! 🙂


  11. I am in total agreement. His remarks were offensive, not to mention racist. There is a double standard in this country that can be attributed in large part to the media. I am so disapointed and worried about things that are happening in this country as its leaders turn their backs on God and the standards and principles that America was founded upon. I believe the media is the nail in the coffin.


  12. careyrowland says:

    Now you see the true character behind American Idol; It’s no accident that they chose the word “idol.” Sorry, Dorothy, we ain’t in Kansas any more. This is serious stuff. It’s time for America to wake up and recognize the sleaze that is being perpretrated on naive consumers who seek entertainment but have lessons in idolotry delivered to their living rooms instead. This incident is an unexpected glimpse into the depravity behind the facade of American show business. We’d best heed the warning.
    Carey Rowland, author of Glass Chimera


  13. Couldn’t have said it better! Amen!


  14. Banteringblonde says:

    yikes … that wasn’t pretty! I fast forwarded through his performance – I don’t like him or his music. Good for you for taking a stand!


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