God Works All Things For Good, Even Unplanned Pregnancy! {guest post by Melissa}

I am so privileged to have Melissa, from Multitasking Mama as a guest blogger on Real Life today! As many of you know, I have been raising funds for our local Hope Pregnancy Resource Center, which helps women facing unplanned pregnancies with education, resources, material help, even free sonograms. I feel that if I am going to be pro-life, I have to help those that have made that choice! If you feel led to give to my campaign (only two days left), and help young moms like Melissa, you can read all about it here, and go to my FirstGiving.com Page to donate. I need a miracle to come close to my goal of $1000! I’ve pledged to give $5 for each person who donates any amount.

Getting pregnant at sixteen saved me.

That is not always a popular statement but it is true.

I was in a very self destructive place in my life. Life had taught me that I had no one to rely on but myself. Childhood abuse, rejection and hurt had built a calloused wall around my heart. Promiscuity, drug use and a general loathing of self replaced the little girl that had once dreamed of being a music therapist. The God I had known as a child would never look past the sins I had committed.

When both lines turned blue on the little white stick, I promptly vomited into the trashcan of the fast food bathroom stall I had locked myself in. For several days I pretended I didn’t know what was happening. Then, the panic struck. Pregnant? How can I take care of a baby? All I had was a room in an apartment and a job behind the drive thru window. “I can’t do this”….

Fast forward a week, sitting in a sterile clinic surrounded by literature about birth control, reproductive choices and my “options”. As I filled out the form, my hands began to shake. “I can’t do this”….

Thankfully, God was at work in my life even when I didn’t realize it. I made the decision to have my baby (which I intuitively knew was a boy). God brought people in to my life, including my future husband, who did know what they were doing and helped a seventeen year old girl become a good mama.

It was not easy. Jared was born five weeks premature (because I had an eating disorder and smoked throughout my pregnancy). He spent almost two weeks in the NICU before coming home. I became a statistic again when I became pregnant with Matt when Jared was just six months old.


Jared as a baby

Through it all, God was making a way for me to know Him, who He really is- a God of grace and mercy.

I was in a dark hole of post partum depression after Matt was born. Eighteen years old with a newborn and a sixteen month old, I was convinced I had ruined my life and would never be able to adequately parent my precious babies.

And, then I got the mail. Yes, something as simple as a postcard in the mail made my day AND introduced me to Jesus. Are you a young mom? Need a time-out? Come to xyz church on Tuesday for coffee. Free childcare provided.

Free childcare? You had me at….free childcare.

The next day was Tuesday and I tentatively walked in to a church with my a baby on my hip and a baby in a car seat, screaming as only his colicky self could. And a wonderful Christian woman took those boys from me, pointed me toward a room with a few other gals and I had the first quiet, peaceful two hours that I could remember. “I can do this”…

There was no judgment, no questions about my “situation”, only love. After six months of attending that teen moms support group, not only did I have my GED and was enrolled in the local college, I had found Jesus with clothes on. I was baptized that year and my husband the following year.

Melissa and the family now

We serve a Romans 8:28 God, you know the One that works ALL things together for good?…Becoming pregnant at sixteen saved me….from continuing to hurt myself, from perpetuating cycles of generational sin, from always believing I was too far gone to be saved. I will always be grateful to those women, who looked past the tough exterior of a girl with big chips on her shoulders, to the potential that lied therein. May I always extend the same grace to others.

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Comments

  1. Wow Melissa, I had no idea, but what an amazing story! Thank you for being brave enough to share it. Blessings to you!

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  2. Amy @ Finer Things says:

    Amazing story, Melissa. Teen moms who find a way are true heroes.

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  3. Phoebe @ Cents to Get Debt Free says:

    Your story is so similar to mine. I was a senior paving the way to start college to become a pediatrician when I found out I was pregnant. I was horrified! I literally took 10 home tests over about a 2 month period. I knew they were all wrong, so I finally went to the Health clinic for a "real" test, that I just knew would be negative. I didn't tell my parents until I was almost 4.5 months pregnant–shortly before my HS graduation.

    My son was born 7.5 weeks early due to my severe pre-eclampsia. Later, at about 4-5 months he had multiple brain surgeries to relieve excess fluid on his brain. I, also, became a statistic when I became pregnant again–my oldest was about 8 months.

    It was a bad situation..and I just knew abortion was the only solution. I had tried to forget the pregnancy away (sounds odd, I know), but I could no longer ignore it at almost 5 months. I finally went to the doctor to tell them that I did not want the baby, and I wanted an abortion. No matter what. He did an ultrasound and asked me if I wanted to know the sex of the baby. I said no, it doesn't matter, I want an abortion. He informed me that it was a girl. I literally burst into tears at that moment..and was speechless. It became real to me that this was a baby, and there was no way I could terminate.

    I love my children (I'm now a mother of 3) and couldn't imagine my life without either of them. I'm so glad that I chose life. It was a tough few years, but I wouldn't change it!

    Thanks for sharing your story!

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  4. Melissa, Multi-Tasking Mama says:

    Thank you for allowing me to share my testimony, Sarah! You are a true gem!

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  5. Tricia Goyer says:

    What an amazing story! I found Christ as a pregnant teen too!

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  6. oh amanda says:

    beautiful post!! thank you for sharing. i have tears in my eyes thinking about the church that sent out that postcard!

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  7. Robin ~ PENSIEVE says:

    What a beautiful testimony of love and redemption and hope and grace…and you name it! How precious to see God at work in your life when you had no idea at all; how faithful of YOU to share all He's done for you.

    Precious :)!

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  8. Mrs. Fish aka Two Fish says:

    Oh Melissa, what a truly beautiful story! Your strength and faith are absolutely amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your story.

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  9. Mandi @ It's come to this says:

    Gotta love it when a church knows how to be a church … and when someone lets the church help!! Thanks for sharing your story!

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  10. What an incredible story! I love that God accepts everyone exactly where they are and the Holy Spirit works in us in ways we could have never imagined. Each and every life conceived is a blessing, yes, even in the case of a teen pregnancy. Thank you for sharing your real life story.

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  11. Melissa, I love your deep insight and honest response of what it means to show unconditional love like Christ to the person receiving it. Like you, I say "May I always extend the same grace to others." Amen and amen.

    Thank you for being so open and revealing. You are a good woman.

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  12. Saph @ Frugal Wife Blog says:

    Wow, awesome testimony!!

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  13. UnfinishedMom says:

    What a wonderful story. I'm so thrilled at what God has done in your life and the person he has brought you to become. My husband and I have commented before how, "Childcare provided" is sometimes the same as "Jesus Loves You".

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  14. What a breath of fresh air, to hear of someone else with a similar story. Although now at 27 and married I finally don't feel like a young single mom, there are times when it just hits hard.

    I had my oldest when I was 16. I spent my entire sophmore year pregnant. Although raised in a Christian home, there was something missing- my relationship with my dad. I sought an outlet, albeit an unhealthy, negative outlet. I had a friend who happened to be pregnant at the same time. She took me to the doctor (I couldn't drive yet!), and at 16 weeks her mom dragged her into a clinic and made her abort. I was so lost, boy was it a tough time in life.

    I now have 2 daughters- 11 & almost 6 and 2 sons- 2 in Jan and one due in Jan. It's amazing where life takes us! In April 2003 I committed my life to the Lord and never looked back. I struggle often with emotional aspects that only young single moms could relate to. I'm in a new town with no friends and most family is not near. I'm glad to hear another's story.

    Thanks Melissa for opening your heart up! How old are the boys now?

    Allie

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  15. ok, so I didn't find god after my daughter or anything but I do have to say that getting preggo did save me and my hubby's life. we were both on a path to dooms day, in that we found eachother, got preggo by accident and now have a healthy loving relationship minus all bad behaviors. we still find it amazing that both of us are alive. Thanks for the post. sometimes we need a reminder of where we are and where we were!

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  16. Adrian's Crazy Life says:

    What a great story Melissa. I'm so glad you shared this on Twitter and pointed us here. I forwarded it onto my minister. I would love for our church to be able to offer this kind of support to young mothers. I'm so glad I got to meet you this weekend @ SITScation!

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  17. Stephanie says:

    What an amazing story! I love the family photo at the end..such a testimony of God's mercy and love! Thank you so much for sharing!

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