How Your Daughter’s Love Language Can Help You Brush Her Hair

Do you have a daughter who screams at the mere mention of brushing her hair? Is her head so tender that even without knots, the tears flow? Me too.

Have you ever read the book The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman?

This book helps you discover how you and your loved ones give and receive love. The five love languages are:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
  • Quality Time

I’ve known that my middle child, Princess, has a love language of Physical Touch. I think she would be attached to my hip all the time, if she could. But I’ve never really thought about how that knowledge could help me with everyday tasks, such as brushing her hair.

The other day, by accident, while I was brushing her hair, she ended up facing me with her arms around my waist. It was the perfect angle for brushing her hair, and she stopped fussing. I asked her, “Does hugging me while I brush your hair make it hurt less?” Of course, she said yes.

Whatever works, right? So my advice to you is to figure out your child’s love language, and use that to your advantage, even in the small things!.

About Sarah Pinnix

I'm a mom, blogger, vlogger, libertarian. I love Jesus, and my husband, too. Social Media Strategist for a Non-Profit (All statements here are solely my own)


  1. Liza's Eyeview says:

    My friend is looking at that book too. I think I’d check the library if they have it. Or maybe I should just buy one 🙂


  2. i really need to get that book. I need something to help me understand my daughter more…


  3. elaine @ peace for the journey says:

    Have both the adult version and kid version of this book. Very practical when learning to speak another language that is often foreign to us. It’s been awhile since I’ve looked at them, so I will dust them off and get to reviewing this week.



  4. Sarah, I clicked over from “Until my last breath” I have enjoyed reading your blog today. I will check out the book. It looks like a Must read. Blessings.


  5. Missy @ It's Almost Naptime says:

    I am trying this tomorrow!!


  6. Rhen @yestheyareallmine says:

    I love that book. I read it about 2 1/2 years ago and still reference it all the time. It changed my way of thinking and I use that information on a daily basis.


  7. Melissa says:

    I totally am trying this! Great idea!


  8. The author of that book – Gary Chapman – was one of the pastors at our church in Winston Salem for 4 years or so. We always loved it when it was his turn to give the sermon. We also went to one of his marriage conferences. Tremendous instruction on living a love language life. I haven’t read the one on love languages of children. I’ll have to do that soon. Thanks.


  9. Cassie - Homeschooling Four says:

    My 3rd girl does this EVERY morning! I will try this technique to see if it makes any difference. I’m willing to try anything at this point! I want to cut it all off!!


  10. I’ll have to check out this book. I’ve heard a lot about it but have never looked at it.

    I’ve found that Paul Mitchel’s The Detangler works wonders for brushing easily-tangled hair. It’s a rinse out conditioner. The stuff is expensive but worth every penny.



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