Since Friday, I’ve been visiting my mom. It’s not necessarily been a leisurely visit, although it has been great to spend time with her. You see, she had foot surgery- actually it’s the second foot. Not just any foot surgery, but they basically had to take her foot apart and reconstruct it. I can’t even imagine having that done! But she had to, no getting around it.
I live about 3 hours away from my mom, and the rest of the family, and last spring (for the first surgery), I just couldn’t come down. I had a 4 year old at home every day, and we were in the throes of end-of-the-school-year concerts, recitals, and tons of other commitments. I really couldn’t bring Little Pea to stay at my moms with me- we didn’t know what it would be like for her, recovering from the surgery and not being able to bear weight for eight weeks. But thankfully, my Aunt Joan came down for that first week.
I really felt horrible to not just be able to stop by and take out the trash, or take my mom grocery shopping, since she couldn’t drive. It was the first time I had real regrets about living where we do.
So this time, with Little Pea in school and no recitals or concerts- Labor Day weekend, which would be slower anyway, I decided to come stay for the week after the surgery. I decided that while it was possible, coming to help my mom would be my first priority, and my husband agreed.
So here I am. It’s been a lot smoother than I imagined, although she had a few hiccups in the first few days. Admittedly, I haven’t been working as much as I thought I would… because of time and my computer being feisty with the network.
But you know, it will all work out. I’m learning to keep first things first, in work and in life. As my dear friend Fiona said today. “stop chasing the shiny shiny …. focus.” The shiny is very enticing to me, but I think this will be my new Motto!
So what about you? What’s going on in your life?