On Being Overwhelmed and Having a Partner

I have the sweetest husband in the world. There have been so many things this week that have me SOOOO immensely stressed out. Nothing catastrophic, mind you, I’m not curled into a fetal position… yet. Anyway, I’m going to take this opportunity to brag on my husband, because he is THE most awesome hubby evah!

As many of you know, I have had anxiety disorder since having my first child, eight years ago. I hate saying “disorder,” because it’s just something I have to deal with- it comes and goes, but I get through it. I draw closer to God when the anxiety gets more powerful than my medication, it usually only lasts a few days.

Well, this is going to be shocking to most of you wives out there, but brace yourself. My husband actually keeps track of when my monthly visitor is scheduled to well… visit. Why? I can assure you it’s not to throw around sarcastic comments, like, “You’re just freaking out since it’s that time of the month!” Has your husband ever said that to you? Does it help? {snicker} I assure you, earlier in our marriage he probably did!

As I was talking to him on the phone yesterday, Judd said, very calmly and all nurturing-like, “Honey, You know your time is coming soon, and you’re probably feeling more stressed than usual. Just hold on for a few more days before you confront these issues. Don’t worry about the house, you just get done what you need, and I’ll help when I get home.” That was what I needed to hear to get through the day.

Today, he’s taking the girls with him while he works on a waterfall at a Christian Retreat Center. The owners will be there with their kids, and actually invited the girls out there for the day. How awesome is that? That will be one less source of stress in the day. It turns out that today, I spent most of the day internally making sure I didn’t over react to my kids.

Twelve years down this road of marriage, he truly fulfills the verse:

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecc 4:12

I am thankful that we have three strands in our marriage, God, Judd and me, to get us through the tough times. Who is someone who can be like a partner to you. Husband, friend, mom? Go ahead and reach out to them!

I recently read a book called SOS for PMS, by Mary Byers, and it actually suggested being proactive during that week. Realize your tendencies and try to avoid the triggers. If this scenario sounds familiar, you won;t regret reading this book!

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  1. Lisa B @ simply His says:

    Awesome hubby and post! I'm so with you on this — I actually track it though and have to remind him it's coming up. Then he's rather calm with my "outbursts." Hope to meet him and see you again when we're there!


  2. HisFireFly says:

    Thanks for being so open as you share, I know many will be encouraged. More of us need to praise our beloved husbands in a society that wants to make them look like comics.. God gave us good men!


  3. The Thrifty Geek says:

    I can truly say that we are so blessed to have men of God. I am thankful that the Lord has blessed you with a mate that cares for your needs and health. You are blessed.
    Thank you for sharing yourself with us and thank you for being an example of what a marriage should be in this world.


  4. Kristen, The Pajama Mama says:

    …looking up that book now…thanks!


  5. goodness I need this book!

    what a great hubby, I must tell mine to do the same, it would surely me throwing the odd object I believe..


  6. Thanks for sharing this and tell your hubby great job! I say it over and over, this is why God made and man and a woman to be partners in life. It takes both kinds to keep us all going!


  7. Anne Basso says:

    What a great husband. I'm sick today, and my husband who's been working 12 hour shifts for days is coming home to take care of me in a few hours.

    I know the hardest times in my life have been made so much easier because of God and my husband.

    Beautiful post.


  8. Mary @ Giving Up On Perfect says:

    How awesome that your hubby pays attention THAT closely to you! My husband is a full partner, too – and if it weren't for him, I'm just not sure how I'd make it. He does as much – and sometimes more – as I do when it comes to parenting and cooking. Not always cleaning, but we're both pretty lax on that! 🙂 I'm so thankful for my husband, my partner.


  9. Colleen says:

    what a great guy!


  10. Real Life Sarah says:

    Thanks for all the sweet comments on this post! I think it's so important to tell out partners when they bless us!

    Also, if you don't have a husband that can be this for you. Find a friend or family member that can be on your side!


  11. CTgirlinKS says:

    Thank you.
    A great refresher/reminder to appreciate one's partner and keep the faith.


  12. VanderbiltWife says:

    That is the Scripture we had read at our wedding and it is such a blessing when it is fulfilled! My husband is so insanely patient with me. He cares for our child, he cares for me, he never insults me or puts me down. I wish everyone could have that relationship!

    Sounds like you got a sweetie.


  13. Jen @ One Moms World says:

    I think that is what life is all about. It is definitely not a one way street in marriage and there have been times I have felt it is a one way street. My hubby has definitely stepped up to the plate in the last month after we had a good heart to heart talk to let him know I can't do this all alone. I have way too much going on with life. Is life still stressful? Oh yes… but it would be so much more stressful if I didn't have him there by my side cheering me on and helping so much with the girls. I tell him all the time, he is my biggest fan. So true.

    P.S. I called you yesterday. I had a good brainstorming session in my head while packing for the High Country.


  14. The Parlier Family says:

    Sarah! How sweet! He knows it benefits him & your girls to KNOW when you need him most & to support you in any way that he can! I read your post and then read the past-post about "An Unwelcome Companion". I have also been on an emotional roller coaster since the birth of our first son. My husband and I are still working to figure out my "triggers". The anxiety does come, and when it does, it's a real mess! We've been married 8 years this year, and things are getting easier! Hopefully by OUR year 12, we'll be as good as you and Judd are at it!!! Thanks for your post and for being so emotionally honest. There are sooo many of us out here who need to hear that we are not the only ones! Thanks!!!


  15. Carolina Mama says:

    You are so sweet. And I am glad you have Judd. Thanks for sharing!


  16. Jane - Mom Generations says:

    You are so blessed to have such a strong support system in your husband, as I am sure he has in you! This gives me hope for myself…! 🙂


  17. ChristiS says:

    That is FANTASTIC! I struggle with anxiety and depression myself, an am very blessed by my very helpful hubby as well. God has blessed us, hasn't He?!


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