NOT! But I will share what’s working at this point and time. Any day now, Little Pea may decide she’s on to me, and change tactics altogether. I’ve read a few snippets of the book, “Parenting with Love and Logic,” and everything I’ve read seems brilliant! You have to use your intuition with each child to see which methods are most effective.
Little Pea is two, and in that “I do it!” stage. She wants to do what she wants to do, and nothing else. I’ve found a way to make her do what I want her to do, while making her think she has a choice.
For example, we are in a store, and she doesn’t want to leave with me. She stands there and exclaims, “NO!” In the past, I’ve resorted to spanking threats, and even carrying her out the door screaming. However, this question has been working like magic lately:
“Would you like to come yourself, or should I come and get you?” Like clockwork, she’ll say, “my. self.” and… get this… she actually comes with me! Some other great questions are:
“Will you put your shoes on yourself, or should I come over and do it?”
“Can you sit at the dinner table, or do you need to go to bed?”
“Would you like the red shirt, or the pink one?”
You get the point. Anyway, try it… see if it works for you.
So what works for you?