What Did You "Get Done" Today?

“I hardly got anything done today!”

I say this all the time, but is it really true? Well, that depends on my definition of “getting things done.” You see, as a work-at-home mom, I get confused about where my real value lies. I have a friend whose husband is very particular about the appearance of the house. He likes to come home to an orderly atmosphere, and I don’t blame him. But if all the chores aren’t done, he feels as though she was somehow slack that day. We might say, “How could he!” However, I put that same pressure on myself sometimes.

Too often, my primary definition of accomplishment includes cleaning, laundry, cooking, doing dishes, decorating, etc. With my personality, I get very unsettled if all these tasks are not relatively under control. If they don’t get done, I feel like I’m failing. Sure, my job includes these things, but my real value lies elsewhere.

Why did I choose to stay home in the first place? Besides the fact that a teacher’s salary would barely pay for daycare, I did it for my children, not the house. There is immense value in spending time with my children; playing with them, clothing them, feeding them, or just sitting on the couch cuddling. I believe most of our society underestimates this value. If I went to work, I’d pay someone else to do it, so why don’t I give myself credit for the work of nurturing a young life?

dcrmom from Musings of a Housewife posted today about Mommy-Guilt, which I constantly put myself under. I often hear myself say, “Just a minute,” or “Not right now, I have to _________.” I feel annoyed sometimes when they interrupt my housework with their needs, then I beat myself up for it. She got me thinking. Does my mommy guilt stem from being selfish with my time; not wanting to bend to my children’s requests? Or does it come from feeling guilty if I don’t do the “grown-up” tasks that I should be doing? Probably a little of both.

Of course, I must balance chores, and nurturing. But I think I need a new perspective. From now on:

  • When I see dirty dishes, I’ll think of the nourishment I provided for my family that day.
  • When I see toys left out, I’ll think of the fun and learning they experienced.
  • When there are Playdough crumbs on the kitchen floor, I’ll remember their faces as they created masterpieces.
  • When they ask for one more song at bedtime, and I have a load of work waiting for me, I’ll give them two more minutes of my time.
  • And when they grow up, and move on, I’ll probably still feel I didn’t have enough time with them. But I guarantee I won’t be wishing I did more housework!
So, mom, give yourself credit for who you are. You are a strong, resourceful woman who is passing on your knowledge and love to the next generation. No, you’re not perfect, and you shouldn’t expect yourself to be. There is merit in admitting mistakes, letting your children see you change and evolve. And don’t let anyone else tell you what you should be doing. Listen to that still small voice in your heart, and follow.


About Sarah Pinnix

I'm a mom, blogger, vlogger, libertarian. I love Jesus, and my husband, too. Social Media Strategist for a Non-Profit (All statements here are solely my own)


  1. Midwest Mommy says:

    Great Post! It is so true that sometimes I feel like people will think I did nothing all day if I don’t have the housework done. I feel like I need proof I just didn’t sit here.


  2. Jaimie @ hugtwice.com says:

    Great post and SO true!!


  3. FANTASTIC!!! All of us feel this way at some point. I’m watching my 21mo. old color, we just took TWO wagon trips to the end of the street to see the Santa, and we are about the snuggle as soon as I get this computer out of my lap. I could have been wrapping presents, cleaning my guest room for my parents arrival, taking a shower, doing laundry…Being an attentive full time parent is the hardest & most important job we can have! Thanks for the awesome post!



  4. GREAT post. :=)


  5. I’ve mulled these same thoughts over and over in my head you don’t know how many times. I have this quote in my sidebar…I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they were great and noble.
    ~Helen Keller

    It’s good to know I’m not the only one with these same struggles. I now work outside the home so it seems even more complicated. I long for my SAHM days. Enjoy and seize every moment! I don’t mean to heap any guilt, but just wanted to say that to bring a bit of perspective.

    p.s. Love your pic and your header/color combination. Such a nice place you have here!


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  7. Great post : ) I needed to hear about the Play-Doh crumbs today… Thanks Sara!


  8. Sarah, this post (as they say) hit the nail on the head. Dirt in the house means it was a good day with the kids. 🙂

    Merry Christmas1



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